Have you ever heard the expression "I feel fat"? Well I have on many occasions, and I want to announce that "Fat" is not a feeling, you can't feel fat. Either you're fat and or you're not. It used to drive me up the wall when I would hear women say that, what does that even mean?! You feel fat? What does fat even feel like? Now I simply correct people when I hear that, for example the other day I was on a crowded bus, and I heard a pretty young woman, probably not much older than I was, complain to her friend saying she felt fat. At the moment I felt my blood boil ever so slightly, so I turned around and smiled politely and said
"Fat is not a feeling".
She looked at me stunned and said
So I repeated myself. Before she had the chance to stop me, I was ranting, (well more like expressing my strong views) I told her :
"Fat is not a feeling. You're skinny so how do you feel fat? Perhaps you're having an off day and not feeling your usual self, but that does not mean you feel fat. Tell me what does feeling fat feel like?"
She looked at me astounded and seemed lost for words, then she said :
"I feel ugly today"
At that point I damn near lost it. She said she felt fat because she was having an off day and felt ugly. So I said :
"You're not ugly, and you know that. I'm sorry that your ego wasn't fuelled today by compliments, but just because you're having an off day doesn't mean that you're fat, and you certainly have no idea what it is like being fat. So I suggest the next time you open your mouth you take the time to figure out what you want to say and make it clear."
She looked beyond shocked, I don't think anyone has put her in her place before, fortunately for her my stop was coming up so I left her with this :
"Oh and FYI fat people are not ugly, just look at me" and I smiled and got off the bus.
Why do people think that anything negative (ugly, unhealthy, unhappy, lonely etc) is synonymous to being fat? I am none of those things, yes I have my off days, but I don't blame that because I'm fat. I'm sick and tired of fat people being treated like some unknown species, like we're not even human beings! So if you're having an off day because your feeling lonely, unwanted, unhappy etc, don't you dare say you feel fat! Because you can't feel fat, it's not a feeling! If your feeling down, just say "I'm feeling down", because that is how you truly feel! It's time society stop blaming and dumping everything negative down to being fat, and actually deal with these negative feelings.
I'm so glad I got this off my chest!
Now it's your turn, ever had to correct someone about "feeling" fat? Drop me a comment, and let me know!