I’m a confident person, sometimes I have to fake it to make it, but overall I have confidence in myself. I learnt from an early age to be confident, it came naturally to me, but there were times when I didn’t feel confident, and that was because I started piling on the weight and as we all know people can be cruel. Living in England has taught me valuable life lessons, it broke me down and built up again into a stronger, and more confident woman than ever.
I think confidence is a major issue for women, but especially for plus-size women, because of the scrutiny we receive from society, and the feeling of rejection from acceptance. I know many plus-size teenagers, who have no confidence and extremely low self-esteem, and its sad because they shouldn’t feel bad about who they are and what they look like. If you don’t love yourself, no one else will. If you don’t like yourself, no one else will. If you are negative about yourself, you will attract negative people. These are the lessons I learnt well, and I’ve gone through it all. So my point is, you have to feel good about who you are, because no one else is going to feel good for you. You have to love yourself completely and accept who you are, because nobody else can be you. Being big or overweight, whatever you want to call it, does not define who you are as a person. Looks are only part of someone, it is not the most important thing. I’d take being a kind and having an amazing personality over aesthetic beauty any day.
It was hard accepting who I was, and what I looked like, so I took time away from people, and I took some “LaCara” time, just me, myself and I!
I soon began (quite quickly in fact), enjoying my own company, and I loved learning new things about myself, and I loved being “me”! When I came to terms of who I was, I began to notice the people around me change. I finally saw that I was surrounded by negative people, because I felt negative towards myself. Now that I’m positive and accept who I am, and I like what I see in the mirror, I now have genuine people around me. I feel confident, when I look in the mirror, and step outside to the world. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not always happy-go-lucky, I do have my moments; but I am who I am, and I’m not going to change for anyone but “LaCara”.
So if you do not love yourself COMPLETELY, I suggest taking some “you” time, figure out what you love, and what you don’t. Be your “own” best friend for awhile, and I guarantee you’ll start to see things differently.